Sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck – We sometimes notice that we begin to feel irritated and agitated during the day just because we had sought something in life and obscenely failed to achieve it. We fail to recognise, though, that perhaps the reason we haven’t succeeded is because God has something better in mind for us. Our failure is frequently a beautiful piece of luck. We didn’t succeed in getting what we wanted, but that wasn’t because we were ineffective; rather, it was because we deserved better. The best approach to think about this is to consider something that you once wanted so much that it appeared as though your life had been in vain because you couldn’t have it.
“I’m a greater believer in luck, and I find the harder I work the more I have of it” -Thomas Jefferson.
Have you ever felt such utter devastation when things don’t go the way you had hoped? Perhaps a relationship didn’t work out, or perhaps you didn’t land the job you were so sure you wanted. Is your life even better than you anticipated it to be now that you reflect back on that circumstance?
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I’m sure that things worked out differently than you had anticipated when you were eventually able to get up and move on. Unexpectedly, you’ve landed the job you never imagined you’d enjoy. Perhaps you met someone you would not have had the chance to meet but now have a terrific relationship with. Always keep in mind that everything happens for you and not against you. We can enjoy the ride when we stop trying to control everything and allow life to lead us on the adventure we were meant to take.
We frequently have a tendency to feel depressed or to attribute our failure to ourselves, others, or both. But it’s crucial to realise that we could only go in the direction of where we are now because we hadn’t yet become that specific thing or person. Not everything we encounter is intended for us. Even if we may have a lot of wants, we only ever receive in life what we genuinely deserve! It is only because you were rejected at that time that you have gone on to have a more successful life, find a much better relationship, or do anything different.
Don’t think of failure at particular instances as being your last chance to succeed. Think optimistically and realise that you didn’t fail because you didn’t do something; rather, you learned from it and made sure to avoid making the mistake in the future. These failures can serve as a guide for achieving your objective. Instead of letting your failure ruin you, you can use it as motivation to succeed the next time. You have to realise that your successes are a result of your mistakes.
Here are some reasons why it’s beneficial to not always get your way:
Going forward, you’re more equipped
We have two options when things don’t go as planned: victim mode or fighter mode. Your greatest teacher is the suffering that results from disappointment. It acts as a reminder to make decisions that will get you closer to achievement and fulfilment rather than repeating the mistakes of the past. Remember that if you allow it, pain can be a very strong motivator.
You are compelled to work otherwise, which develops character
It’s tempting to believe that working harder will solve your problem after being let down. But frequently, continuing to do the same thing only produces more of the dismal results you already dislike. What other method of thinking and doing might help you go forward more effectively?
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When you don’t obtain what you desire, you are forced to increase your learning agility, a quality that distinguishes the most successful and contented workers.
You have the chance to adjust your emphasis as a result
When faced with obstacles in life, we are compelled to reflect on ourselves and look within. By considering how we can get better moving forward, we become more self-aware. It’s an opportunity for us to grow as people.
Your ability to overcome challenges in the future has increased
You become a more confident version of yourself when you have the courage to confront your concerns. You start to believe in yourself more after demonstrating to yourself that you can accomplish it. There will always be challenging individuals and demanding circumstances to put you to the test in life. You develop character and learn how to persevere when things are difficult by not getting your way. It demonstrates your inner fortitude.
Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it.” -Ronald Dahl.
You gain knowledge to avoid making the same mistakes again
When things don’t turn out the way you had hoped, you create rules and values to direct your actions in the future. To move on stronger and better prepared, you might gather lessons or create a mantra.
Once we understand the message, we usually learn from our mistakes and don’t repeat them. When we are in tune with our intuition, a level of anguish re-emerges if we are on the verge of making the same error.
Choosing to act is not an option when you realise that you will not realise your dream. It becomes necessary. You come to the realisation that time is of the essence and that whatever that has to be done must be done now.
You concentrate as a result on coordinating your activities with the life you wish to build. You stop hoping for good fortune to find you. Instead, you take control of your life and design the course of your destiny.
.“Oh, but you must travel through those woods again and again… said a shadow at the window… and you must be lucky to avoid the wolf every time…
But the wolf… the wolf only needs enough luck to find you once.” – Emily Carroll, ‘Through The Woods.’
Even though we may first be dissatisfied when we don’t get what we desire, it usually turns out to be a blessing in disguise. You took a leap of faith and launched your own business after losing that job. You were inspired to leave your comfort zone and concentrate on networking after being rejected for a promotion, and this helped you land a higher-paying job at another organisation. When things don’t go as planned, we are forced to reevaluate our goals and the road we want to take to get there. In many cases, this forces us to use underutilised skills that can help us move in the direction of our passion and purpose.